קטגוריה: בלוג

This is a reminder of the power of imagination and how we create our own reality.

Imagination is so important in our lives. When we say we want things, such as better relationships, a new car, a new job, health, etc. we pray, we meditate, we do all kinds of things to get there. We go to the ocean, we look at the sky, we crave relief from what we currently have. All of these things are good, but why do so often the things we want not come into our life?

Imagination is the key – to sit with yourself and imagine yourself as you have it. To imagine the specifics of what you are asking for.

What kind of car?
What kind of relationship?
What kind of experiences?

A helpful way is to write down exactly what you want, if you want a relationship get specific on it, if you want a job, an apartment or a house. The more specific you are and the way you imagine it, is the way of the universe and how it will come into your life.

If we don’t ask for things and imagine them, we are given something else that is close but maybe not quite right.

So take the time, to dream, to envision, to imagine what you really want and know it can be yours.

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Let’s talk about Anger again.

Some people experience more anger, and some people less. Where does it come from and what can we do when it does come up?

Anger comes from fear. 

Anger comes from the unknown. Anger can come from a belief that you believe in and another person doesn’t. It can come from other people pushing your buttons in some way. Anger can come from so many things.

I know that nobody wants to live with Anger. Nobody wants to exist in the dark, and not be in the light. 

Of course we don’t want the anger to be there, but it comes. 

We must look into why and where it comes from and understand it, this is how we grow from it and control it.

Anger usually is between two or more people. Between family, between a spouse, or between a coworker. 

The main thing to do in this situation is to really listen to what the other person has to say. First, listen. Now after a day or two, you can say clearly and concisely about how you didn’t like it, or it wasn’t kind, and we must talk like human beings, respect that we can believe differently and that usually when we listen we find compassion for each other even when we disagree.

Anger can also come from things such as reading the news or just being frustrated with circumstances outside of you. 

Everyone sees things differently. We all have our own universe and different thinking/understanding in our heads. 

That is okay. 

Each one of us is at different levels. Which is totally okay. We are all on our own time and pace to learn in this lifetime.

How do you relax anger? 

By counteracting with what brings you joy, or brings you to a place of feeling good. It is different for everyone. Some people love to play tennis, dance, hike, surf, read, do artwork, etc.

Another thing to do is to listen to relaxing music on Youtube or meditations and affirmations, something that allows you to be quiet with yourself and tune in to you. Doing this you can picture cleaning yourself, or taking anger out of your system. Anger is easily able to disappear when we take time to restore ourselves and move through it.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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Change happens all the time in our lives. If we want to change, we have to step into it. We don’t need to worry about change, it is only for good.

I want to talk specifically about changing our circumstances. Changing our space, relationships, jobs, etc.

We have to step out of what we currently have, so we have the opportunity for change to come in. You cannot remain exactly as you are, you have to change something for change to come.

If we stay in the same place, the same house, the same city, the same routine, it is hard to see different things coming to us, to even have a different perspective.

Every change that we do bring in, a different house or apartment, or different city, different state, different country. Any step that feels like a change is good. It allows us to know ourselves better, change is only for good.

The main thing is to not fear change. To not be afraid to take a step and try, no matter what happens it will be for good. We can see different things that we can create, or be, to change energy so that you are not stuck in one place.

I think change is so important. Sometimes you see people that still live in the same place that their parents live, they are still working in the same job, in the same place. I don’t want to judge anyone’s path, but from my point of view and experience, if you want to know yourself better, to create new things, to open new doors, you need to step out and be brave enough to do different things, to change.

Even with jobs, there is no need to fear opportunities not being there for us. Of course we need to do it within reason and be smart about how we change and not act on impulse, but to know there is always going to be something to catch us. To know that change is good. There is no need to fear stepping into it.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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Asking the question of “why?” is really important. I talk a lot about this in my book, Our Journey.

To ask “why?” makes us go deeper and look at our lives and understand them, bringing us a better quality of life.

Asking “why?” questions such as: Why do I belong to this family?
Why do I have these children?
Why have I chosen this job or career path?
Why do I want to be a writer?
Why do I like this person? Or anything that I choose, why?
Why do I live in this country?
Why did I move to this country?
Why, and why, and why?

Why do we need to ask these questions? By asking these questions of “why?” we start to know ourselves. We start to understand what we like, what we want, what we have, and where we can learn.

We also are able to see places/areas in our lives where we can do better, understand why we are here, and perhaps a way to do it differently.

By asking “why?” on all topics, you see things you want more of in your life and things that you no longer want to have. You see clarity and an understanding of where you are now, and how you can improve yourself.

When we sit with ourselves and ask ourselves the why questions, we gain a clearer state of mind about which way to take our life, of what we need to do next. We come to peace with who we are, how it is better to have a peaceful life, to understand other people, to love yourself. All of these things come from the question of why? And being honest with your answers.

Again, doing this will ultimately enhance our lives, and add depth and understanding.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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Taking yourself out of just “Me”, and seeing the whole.

I want to talk about “Me”, what do I mean by Me? Each one of us, is a “me”, with our own lessons and paths. The thing is when we focus a lot on just “us”, our minds can worry. We don’t know what tomorrow will bring, we worry, feel at risk, we are not free.

Our minds start to wander… about what is going to happen, what will be. I am not just talking about material things, it can be other things in our minds. We have so many areas of life to worry about, our mind plays out movies of what if?

We can worry about our health, we can worry about our relationships, we can worry about money, how to pay bills, etc. There is a lot of topics that bring worry when we think about them and about the future, and “me myself and I” thoughts.

How can we be in a place where we have certainty that everything is going to be okay? Where we can be sure of that?

What creates the uncertainty in our life? What causes us to feel uneasy and uncertain? Topics where you are not sure, where there are doubts that come into your mind.

The one thing that creates this uncertainty, is desire for myself alone, thinking of the “me”. This is what creates this uncertainty, is when I am thinking about myself alone.

The thing is there is a reality around you that is perfect. It is good, better than good. Even scientists say it exists. So why we are not there? It is because we are not connected to that. If we want to connect to that place, and feel free, it is when we feel certain that we are okay. When you are not thinking only about yourself, but the whole of what is, how it all exists together.

See the big picture. Realize it is not just you here. See the whole, and realize it is all going to be okay. That is certain, and when you start to second guess it, take the “me”
out of the picture and realize you are not alone.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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It is important to remember the past, and most important to look back and remember the good things about your past.

I want you to think back to your childhood, and think of things that were good. A friend you used to have, little things that made you smile, how you used to be.

Look at yourself like you are a child, and remember how you were. You can think about how you used to look, your own innocence, what you were going through at the time, activities you used to do, etc.

Look at how that turned you into who you are now. Think about the good things, think about your behaviors, and why things happened the way they did, picture yourself changing things you didn’t like, to understand why, and how you have changed those parts of you today.

Ask yourself why were you born into this country? Or why you grew up in that neighborhood, with those people? Why were you born at that time? How do you look today? What do you surround yourself with now? It is good to remember where you came from, and how far we go from that starting point.

Try to focus on how you changed for the better, and also the good things about your past. Try to focus on your near future, what you want to do more of and what you want to be now.

Go back to the memory and see how you have changed and grown. Think about areas you wanted to do better – and from that, you can change your thought process and your behavior.

Be proud that you went through a lot of things between then and now. Keep imagining good things into your life, how you want it to be. Remember it is a step by step process to get there.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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This is spring time. Everything starts to grow, the flowers bloom, the sky becomes clear.

This is a good time to look within yourself and check in with yourself, finding introspection.

Sometimes we need to stop and think, and look within ourselves. To think about what we want to do, what we have done, what we want to achieve, what we already have achieved. To take time and recognize, realize, what we want to change, how we can change, who can help us.

Truly going within yourself … ask the questions. Especially if something happened to you that you don’t understand. Look within and ask what do you need to do, what you can learn, what you have been going through?

Ask yourself, where am I lazy? Where do I have doubt? Sit with yourself without judgment or beating yourself up over whatever comes. You can sit and write it down, or just take a couple minutes a day letting yourself process. Without judging anyone, and especially not judging yourself.

Just looking at your life, and asking yourself honestly how can I improve, how can I feel more relaxed and happy with my life? How can I feel a fullness, a satisfied feeling within myself?

Know that you are achieving things and you are taking your time. You take it step by step to get to this feeling of satisfaction.

Sitting with yourself and looking inward is a step to that process. Just thinking how we want our life to be better. How to feel more relaxed, happy, to feel like you are achieving something. Feeling full, at ease. To sit with yourself and find some introspection is step one.

Again this is spring. The best season to do this, and let in new, a fullness, blooming, open sky kind of feeling.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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I want to talk about the power of “I Am”.

To explain this, all of us are born with something that we don’t believe is within us. We all at some point doubt our potential.

For example, we don’t believe that we are worthy, or good enough, we don’t believe in ourselves, we doubt ourselves, we second guess.

That is okay. I want to talk about the positives. If we don’t try things, we don’t know.

Sometimes we fail, sometimes we are disappointed, sometimes we have people that judge us, and then other times we judge ourselves, sometimes we get let down.

Each one of us goes through something that makes us feel a certain way. What is key is that each one of us can overcome this by writing down the I AM affirmations.

I am worthy.
I am strong.
I am beautiful.
I am capable.
I am going to have a wonderful day.
I am going to succeed.

Write and repeat all the kind words that you can find. Write them down, listen to them in the morning, and repeat them in your mind.

Listen to these in the morning and in the evening until you feel that you are okay, you are good. Adding I am, gives it strength, and makes your subconscious mind believe it over time.

Feeling down will happen many times in our lives, but the way to come out is to find the positives… and know the power of the I am affirmations. Focus on the good, not what you are not. Focus on what you can be, not what you lack. Focus on all that you are and
all that you have.

If you need help there are many YouTube videos with I am affirmations and mediations you can do as well. Put it in your mind in the mornings, and whenever your mind starts to stress. Just look up I AM affirmations and know you can get help. You can build
yourself up. Even if you see things that you didn’t do right, know that you can find another way, what belongs to you will come.

Know that you are worthy, and you deserve so much.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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I want to talk about controlling our thoughts. When situations come to us that are difficult, or someone tells us unfortunate news, or a dilemma comes into our reality – the key thing to do is to notice our thoughts.

Usually, we start to create a movie with our thoughts. We start to worry, we start to be sad, etc. The minute that we have this situation – when the thoughts pour in and the fear movie is created – notice it, and change it to the good.

For example, right now most of us have experiences with the Coronavirus time, with Covid. Most of the people played into the fear mentality. Being scared, fear of death, fear of sickness. The news plays into this too. Change the movie for you, notice the good. Not ignoring what is going on with Covid, but to focus on the good that exists for you too. You can’t change what happened or happens, but you can change your thoughts which will change your reality. What can I do about it? 

What can I do to protect my health and wellness? How can I check my vitamins? This is just an example of covid because it is happening now, but it can be with anything.

When challenges come at us, sometimes it can push us to do things that we really wanted to do, changing things in our life that we postponed. Focus on the good.

Where is your mind and what direction is going in? This is what comes to you, and what the new future creates. So the key is to notice your thoughts and to constantly remind yourself to change them for the good.

Stop the bad movie and try to find something else, the better story to focus on. Focus on the good thoughts, and that is the beginning of manifesting something good. It is better to create good things. 

Ask yourself why has it happened to me? How can I change it for the better? Create a good movie/picture/mindset – it holds so much power for everything in your life.

Your mind and your thoughts are what create the future, on what is going to happen to you, controlling your thoughts can bring good into your life, those thoughts are the first step to creating.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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I want to talk about happiness and how to create it.

Before starting I just want to make sure that we remember that whatever we have is in our hands, it is in our hands who to be, what to be, and what we have.

I know there are situations where we say “I can’t” or “it is not possible”, but we need to make sure that the place that we are, where we live, who our friends are, where we work, the community, all of those things need to fit our life. We need to be surrounded by people that support us. It is very important to notice where we are and who we are with. It helps us to think positively, creatively, and visualize things that we want in our life.

It is our responsibility to be happy. So we have to catch ourselves all the time and ask where our consciousness is. Ask yourself why you are upset, why you have stress, why you have anger, why you feel sad… ask yourself where does this come from? And let go.

So how can you be happy? There are plenty of things.

The people that surround you, the place that you are, the community, all of these can help. But first, it is in our heads. You need to find something that makes you excited and feel good about yourself.

Some people like to do a sports exercise, or something creative like art, or cooking, or sewing, whatever you can do with your hands that makes you happy. Listening to music, dancing, playing an instrument, any kind of body activity, meditation, funny videos.

Sitting with yourself and planning good things that you want to have in your life. Happiness is in our hands – to feel good about yourself, relaxed, at ease, it is in our hands. We can change it, and we can do better.

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עקבו אחרי באינסטגרם ➡️ @RachelBenor

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