Understanding Fear

Where does fear come from?

I know I have spoken about fear before. This is a reminder of recognizing fear and also understanding where fear comes from.

When we feel scared or worried to do things, when we feel afraid of moving or taking action, when we feel afraid of the world/environment we live in, whatever it may be.

Some people are afraid to swim, to take an elevator, or drive over a bridge. Others are afraid of love, failure, or broader feelings.

Where does it come from? It comes from a couple places, fear comes from a place of the unknown, we have never done something before, so this natural human instinct of fear comes in of just not knowing.

Sometimes fear also comes from control. Of wanting things to happen a certain way. We have to release the control to release the fear.

Lastly, we can have fear, from memory from a past life, or childhood. Fear from the past, we have a bad experience and are afraid to do something again. A relationship, a hurt, a loss, a letdown, etc. Understanding the past and how we can do it differently is how we move through fear that is in the past.

It doesn’t matter the source, what matters is the understanding and the learning from it. Briefly letting your mind go back to this time, and this time looking at it with compassion and working to understand ourselves, what we were going through, understanding what scared us, and if it comes again, we know what to do, we can go again through that differently this time.

Past fear is most often a memory in our subconscious mind, when we experience something that doesn’t feel good, and now in the present we are scared from that and experience fear. We are afraid because of a bad memory. Sometimes we have to look back to understand, but then the key is to let go of it, realize it is in the past and realize it is not necessarily that it’s going to happen again the same way.

Release the fear, let go.

You’re okay. It can be different now.

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This week I want to talk about Anger. Some people experience more anger, some people less. Where does it come from and what can we do when it does come up?

Anger comes from fear.

Anger comes from the unknown.

Anger can come from a belief that you believe in and another person doesn’t. It can come from other people pushing your buttons in some way. Anger can come from so many things.

I know that nobody wants to live with Anger. Nobody wants to exist in the dark, and not be in the light. Of course we don’t want the anger to be there, but it comes.

We must look into why and where it comes from and understand it, this is how we grow from it, and control it.

Anger usually is between two or more people. Between family, between a spouse, between a coworker.

The main thing to do in this situation is to really listen to what the other person has to say. First listen. Now after a day or two, you can say clearly and concisely about how you didn’t like it, or it wasn’t kind, and we must talk like human beings, respect that we can believe differently and that usually when we listen we find compassion for each other even when we disagree.

Anger can also come from things such as reading the news, or just being frustrated with circumstances outside of you.

Everyone sees things differently. We all have our own universe and different thinking/understanding in our heads.

That is okay. Each one of us is at different levels. Which is totally okay. We are all on our own time and pace to learn in this lifetime.

How do you relax anger?

By counteracting with what brings you joy, or brings you to a place of feeling good. It is different for everyone. Some people love to play tennis, or dance, or hike, surf, read, do artwork, etc.

Another thing to do is to listen to relaxing music on Youtube or meditations, affirmations, something that allows you to be quiet with yourself and tune into you. Doing this you can picture cleaning yourself, or taking anger out of your system. Anger is easily able to disappear when we take time to restore ourselves and move through it.

I wish you all the best and am here if you need me.

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Doing Things and Then Releasing the Worry

In times of uncertainty we tend to hold onto anxiety. Many outlets of fun/releases of worry are missing – concerts, movies, parties, celebrations.

Daily life is still the same in many ways. Operations, studying, work (even from home)… however people are searching and deciding and uncertain.

The best way to deal with this situation is to do everything that you can do, but in your mind don’t think about too much. In the meantime you don’t need to worry and stress, instead try to release.

Release and know that you will deal with what you have to do when you have to do it.

In this practice you will start being able to let go, release, and focus less on the stress of it all. When we start moving our head.. and thinking too much, it is not worth it. In this time we have enough stress… we don’t need any additional heaviness.

I just want to share with you my thoughts and a reminder that you can and will find a solution to whatever may come up, but you are most likely going to think clearly without the stress of your mind worrying.

So practice letting go with the little tasks… studying, making a phone call, applying for a job, do it, and then release. Do it and then release.

Wishing you all the best in this time, and know that you are not alone.



People are drawn to comfort.

We like things in order to be comfortable, clean, safe, nice. On the opposite spectrum people are also drawn to improvement and growth, getting new jobs, new apartments, nicer cars, that kind of expansion. Somewhere in the middle of those two feelings – security and excitement – is change.

Change is such a part of life. Every day little changes take place whether we embrace it or not. This is a message and a reminder that change, and embracing change as being positive, something we actually can look forward to, will bring us calm instead of fear. For that comfortable, clean, safe place to happen at different levels we must go through the period of change where it can feel a bit bumpy and not so smooth. It is the only way to get there.

Change is a birth of something coming into your world. Super uncomfortable for a while, and then all of a sudden the most beautiful thing in your life. The new and improved comes to us through change.

Any change that you want in your life, do not fear the process of it. When we are comfortable and don’t change anything we feel stuck. When we are uncomfortable and going through a struggle we are pushed into a direction of something new. In that stage instead of shutting down, keep climbing and knowing it is a natural process of bringing something better into your life.

If you don’t embrace the changes in your life, something comes and forces you to change. That is okay too. Adapt to whatever you are going through. When you do, growth starts to happen and you can make it to the next place of comfort. Change is the catalyst for improvement.

So look at your desires, and know to get to them, to let them into your life, you must also let in change.