Author: rachelbenor

Sometimes someone can come and take out all their anger on you. It happens, and it can upset us but the truth is we just have to realize it is not us, or ours to carry, the best way to react is simply by listening.

Listening means we don’t need to answer back, we just let people get their anger out, and we don’t need to take it personally, to remember it is about them, and not our own.

We don’t need to think it or about why this is happening to us, or why we created it. You can go and think about why it has happened later, you can realize it is not yours.

Listen from their pain, listen from where it has come.

Listen from his or her lack of love and other things. Try to listen for what may have triggered it. Try to be yourself and listen without responding and then understand from where it has come.

You are the channel in which you can help another but from a different way than reacting, you can help by listening. To see what this person needs by listening to their words, and let that person’s voice come out about his pain.

You always need to see how you can help but not necessarily from our point of view and what we think, but just by listening to where they are coming from and their point of view.

Let their anger die down before you try to solve it, and know that sometimes you just have to listen. At the moment it is not yours it is theirs and you are just the channel to try and understand it and by doing that, understand them.

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I know I’ve talked about letting go before. This is a recap on its importance.

What is letting go? How do we attract things in our life?

The answer is in letting go.

In all areas in our life, when we want something, we do something about it. Then when we do that thing, we need to forget about it, and let go.

The hardest part is in letting go, you prepare as much as you can, you do what you can do, and then you let it go.

Where we get stuck is instead of letting go, we second guess or wonder if it could have gone another way.

The truth is – it’s done, you put it out there, did your best, and let go.

For example, if you are going to court for something, you have to do what you can, prepare all documents, and show up as gracefully as you can. In the meantime, let go. The worry and the analyzing will not help you.

Relationships are the same. If you want to start a relationship or have a business connection you want to
make, you show up, you send an email, and you let go.

You meet someone. You connect. You send a text or reach out, and then you let it go.

Anything that you do, you just prepare yourself for, and then when you do that, you let it go.

When you let go, you don’t think about it anymore. You do your share, and you don’t let your thoughts play out, the movie in your head can take over, by actively letting go, this is where the power is.

You do whatever you need to do, and then you let go. You don’t think about it anymore, you don’t talk about it anymore, you don’t dwell on it anymore. You did what you can do and you put it out there, and then you let go.

The answer is in letting go.

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I specifically want to talk about fear and not knowing the future. The unknown. We don’t know how things are going to be or what is going to happen.

Sometimes this unknown fear gets us stuck and leaves us in the same place in which we don’t know the way forward to something better, something different because we are scared.

We want to start a relationship or a business or create but we feel stuck and we don’t know how to start.

We need to start step by step. To visualize it. To write down what we want, and how we might be able to get there. What questions do we need to ask in the how?

Who can I get advice from?

It is better to get advice and to do it, and to go forward, to flow than to sit fearing the future. Keep your mind and your consciousness always positive. Don’t think about failing or the negatives. Let the light come in. Try to just flow, and let the good energy come in and let good things come to you. The answers will come in this state.

Sometimes we feel confused and our head is empty. We have goals and we have specific things that we want to do, we don’t have the details on the how. So just try to do it. In some way, move one step at a time. Go with it, and slow and steadily do the things you want. By doing it, that is where we get out of the fear.

Remember, no matter the outcome, by doing things you want that you feel in your soul, is always for good.

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I want to talk about things that we are stuck with. Like those bad thoughts from memories from the past, that we feel stuck with. In which we might blame others, or feel that someone did something to us that wasn’t right, things we can’t seem to move on from.

The heavy things that we carry with us, can be from parents, friends, teachers, siblings, coworkers, and relationships.

When the memories come we feel hate, disappointment, sadness, and all the emotions that bring us down. We feel confused and angry, and it affects us greatly.

The universe is changing, people are more open, doing the work to see what is good for them and what isn’t. This planet is changing our lives for the better. It is going to be very pleasant to be in.

The one thing that we need to do is to clean all these thoughts and memories, to clear the slate. To send love and forgiveness, to understand why these things came to us, why these lessons have entered our life, and move on.

Don’t be stuck with these blaming negative thoughts, thinking about it makes you feel like you want to cry. Just let it go, clean it. Any way that you need to do this do it, if you need help or to talk to someone do that. Find these thoughts, understand why they come and let them go.

Know that these are a part of your journey that you have to go through. They are there to teach you something, but they are not stuck with you. You are meant to be fulfilled, happy, and not have anything weighing you down or something that is just a memory now making you feel stuck.

If you need help with this please check out my book Our Journey, where I talk a lot about clearing and moving forward from our pasts.

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It’s always good to remind ourselves to focus.

We know that everything comes to us through our minds. We create our own reality. We get what we focus on, whether we want it or not.

We all have challenges in life that come to us at times that challenge us to be better, to learn. However, how we get through them and what we attract, is in our hands. It is in our hands to either go up with our feelings and thoughts or go down with our feelings and thoughts.

Up towards happiness, joy, ease, flow… or down towards sadness, depression, worry, being scared, feeling low. We can choose the upside in any situation if we focus. Allow ourselves to reset and choose to feel differently, to focus on a better feeling.

We need to focus on what we want. We need to see it. We need to be sure and see it clearly and feel sure that this is what we want and we need. Look at pictures that you like, listen to books, read magazines and cut out the pictures, try to imagine it and do it, imagine yourself with the things you do want.

For example, a good relationship in front of you. A high-paying job in front of you. Your own successful business in front of you. Imagine being in a better place and focus on it. Imagine you have it. Focus on the details of exactly how you want it. Our subconscious mind listens and does exactly what we focus on. We do what we feel.

When we focus and think about one thing that we want to do, we get closer to it. Imagining and feeling into it with focus is the first step.

This is how successful people get to where they are and keep maintaining that success.

Focus on the good things that you want in your life. You can have, do, or be anything that you desire if you focus on it.

Good luck to all of us.

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I want to talk about loneliness and how we can change this feeling to feel fulfillment that we are not alone. Each one of us gets this feeling of loneliness sometimes. That low feeling that we are alone, nobody is with us, we feel we want to talk to someone but nobody is there. When we feel sad or completely on our own.

It may trigger a negative thought or memory we remember from childhood triggers that made us feel alone, like a group of other kids not wanting to be with us.

We can be married and feel that we are alone. We can be with people and feel that we are alone.

When we feel lonely the trick is to change the way we think. When your child leaves the house and isn’t living with you anymore, we need to think that “they are with me but not near me.”

Or our parents when we don’t live with them anymore but they are with us, and the same thing with children, we care about them and think about them and are with them even when not physically.

We want to get to this point where we are fulfilled and feel that we are not alone when we are. Fill your life with things you like. Fill the space that feels empty, read, go out for walks, write, do something creative. Find a way to give to others, and there are plenty of ways to fill that void with things we love and we don’t feel alone.

People come and go in our lives, and we just need to learn about them, and learn about ourselves. Surround ourselves with people that elevate us, support us, and realize that it is okay to let people go. The past is to learn from but not let it define us. We are not alone. Loneliness is only in our heads.

There are many things in nature and on this planet that can make you feel connected and not alone.

A beautiful beach, the forests,  animals, finding a pet or nature to take in.

There are many things that can make us feel not alone, and to know that loneliness hits all of us at some point,  it is okay and we just have to know what to do when we feel that way.

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The way we behave to others sometimes isn’t ideal and can make us think that we often don’t think about how important it is to behave in the right way.

Sometimes we behave towards others negatively whether it’s our parents, our children, friends, coworkers, a stranger, bus drivers, etc. No matter who it is, we say something we don’t think about saying or think about if it is the right words that we say. We take it out on them, without putting attention if it is the right way to say it, or if it is right or wrong.

Sometimes we forget the cause and effect of the actions of our words. How much they can impact the other person. We forget about karma and what we put out we get back. The way that we think about others, the way we say it, all the things come back to us and we need to be careful with this.

Think twice before saying something to another person. Especially after reacting. The way we say it matters.

Sometimes we need to say a comment back to react, but we need to say and ask ourselves if we really need to say it, and just think through when something triggers us and we want to say something to another person.
Sometimes we are wrong with what we do say, and it is good to remember that other people can be the same way. So we don’t need to feel down when other people say something about us that doesn’t make us feel good.

Remember the cause and effect and whatever you say comes back to you. Also, remember the way to a happy life is to give out good things, positive ways to make others feel good about themselves, compliments, kind words, and to see the positive aspects in one another.

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Lately, we see in the media that people are starting to say things, to talk about topics, about all kinds of topics that trigger other people to become upset thinking how can people say something like that.

It doesn’t matter where, if it is at work, at home, or in the media. Wherever it is, if it happens to you, you need to listen.

The truth is, we pick and choose to just want to listen to what we want and with that take out anger, judgment, conclusions, and all kinds of thoughts.

Often, we don’t listen. We don’t listen to what is behind these words.

If we listen to the why? Listen to what the other person is saying, what is their point? Then we started to see another movie.

If we listen to something negative about us. Something that is not conformable for us, we need to understand that there is something there that we need to change in ourselves and our thinking and see the bigger picture, see the person telling us, what are they going through?

Why are they saying these things?

It is not that you are in agreement with what they say, but it is more about learning from it. Ask yourself what can I learn from this?

This is how we can make the planet better…

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Thoughts. We create our own reality with our thoughts. I have talked about this topic many times, how thoughts are the key to how we create our material lives, how we need to control our thoughts, and how we
get more of what we think about.

This time on thoughts, I want to talk about something bigger, that we need to remember that this entire
planet is created from all of our individual thoughts.

If we create our own reality with thoughts, then each one of us needs to really think about this, and on what our thoughts are collectively. To notice negative thoughts, about each other, about wishes for other people that are not so good. We think sometimes we have enemies, but we don’t have enemies, it is among our thoughts.

We have our thoughts and that is it.

We don’t need to wait for someone else to help us, or to do something big for us, what we need to do is to look inside our thoughts and reach for our own potential.

Find things we enjoy, and do that, focus on what we can do for each other. Think of things we love, and want to see more of. Focus on the positive thoughts and qualities of the people around us.

If someone talks about another person in a negative way, will send them love and that’s it. It is our
responsibly to manage our own thoughts.

Each one of us starts with ourselves. With our thoughts, our beliefs, changing for the better, for good, for love, then we will see this planet start to change. This time, these past few years has been a wakeup for us to change. This planet cannot support all this negativity anymore. The only way forward is for each of us individually to take responsibility for our own thoughts, what we believe, the way we speak, how kind and loving we each can be.

This is how on a bigger scale, we will have a kind and lovely planet.

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I want to talk about letting go of material things.

Sometimes it happens that we hold something close and give it meaning and then we lose it and we are very sad.

For this blog, I am referring to material things that we have, such as toys, jewelry, clothes, pictures, etc.

For example, my granddaughter recently lost the teddy bear that she got when she was born. She is 9 years old now and has been crying about how sad she is that she lost it this past weekend in Orlando. This made me think of this topic, as we really need to teach our children and ourselves that material things are just things.

We need to change the way we think, maybe there’s a reason it happened and maybe someone else needed it, or maybe this can be an opening for new things to come.

Things are with us for a time, to love and hold close, and then when they leave us in whatever way it is good to remember that it is okay. Think about what is in your closet that you don’t even use… maybe shoes, suits, old handbags, maybe someone else can use these things if we can let go of them, and space can be created in our life for new.

Material things that we haven’t used in a year or more, maybe we can give them away and give a donation so that other people can use them. If there are some trinkets that we lose that we really held onto and we lose it, it’s okay, things are just things and as much as we love the material thing, we have to remember that things come to our lives for periods of time for our using and loving, and although they feel important they are really not everything – we are.

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