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I am outside of the country right now, and it gives a perspective that it is time to see from the outside how love works. To zoom out, and not make it about you, but about the other.

People often don’t see the other person in front of them.

They don’t really look into the other person’s eyes and see what the other person needs. People usually look at and see themselves, about what they want, and where they want to go, what they need. They don’t really take time to see the other person.

We need to change this habit of not thinking about others.

One smile, one compliment, and one blessing, can change the other person’s day.

Ask the driver when you get into a cab how his day is going. Be kind and find respect for the people that do surround you.

This is how we can change the planet and the universe and feel better and happy. This is how you wake up your desire to change things in your life, and what/who you surround yourself with.

Every time you see people around you think how can I bring love here? What can I say when I get in the elevator with a person, can I give a compliment? Can I see from their eyes?

I see how love is a habit and how you see other people like that, with genuine care and setting your own self and problems aside, and you become like that, love becomes a habit.

Try to focus on giving, little things in little ways. This is love. This is how we can find more respect and love in our lives, and change the world for the better.

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How can we prevent unfortunate things from happening to us?

We see so many unfortunate events that happen to people – car accidents, drowning in the sea, getting sick, feeling stuck. I got this question from my patient and I told her that this universe, this planet, operates with the law of cause and effect, and what you put out into it comes back to you.

How can we prevent things from happening to us that are really negative?

We cannot always stop really sad things from happening in our lives, but we can try to prevent them because we can control our thoughts and our actions. Whatever we give we get.

Give whatever you can from yourself to others who need it, give charity to others, and help others. Find something you can do to help the community, help others on the street when walking by, or even just be kind. You don’t have to go crazy but there are little things every day you can do to give back that will not only help someone and bring peace, but also they will calm you.

Meditate, pray for others, light a candle and send love to the universe and others who need it. Whenever you get worried that something bad may happen, or you have been reading the news and feeling low… come back to giving something from yourself to others. That will prevent the judgment, the negativity, the frustration from coming to your life.

Give a compliment, a hug, money, and love. Help others feel better about themselves and by giving you get. The law of cause and effect, whatever you put out or give out will come back to you.

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Decisions, I have talked about this topic before, and want to talk about it again as it comes up often.

Many times in life we have to make a decision, and maybe we don’t know what to do and we feel confused. We don’t know what to decide, we second guess which way will be good for us.

Decisions bring confusion. Then what happens is often we can’t decide, which is the worst and we create a space of indecision. In that space, other things can happen, people decide for you, you wait and never go, and you stress yourself out.

Know that it is always better to decide concretely and realize that there is no such thing as a mistake. There is no wrong decision. If we try something and it doesn’t feel right,
we can decide something else.

When we don’t decide what happens, someone else will decide for us, and it will be something that isn’t even close to what you really want.

Indecision creates that grey space, which leads to more confusion, more doubt, more uncertainty. The decision always creates results even if in the end it wasn’t the decision you stick with.

One of the best things to do is write down and imagine the bigger picture of what you do want in your life. A job, moving forward, different things in life, maybe you realize what you want and that helps your decisions. Go for it, decide.

Remember, it is better to decide something vs. remaining in that space of indecision, and there is no such thing as a wrong decision or a mistake.

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The Now. I know I have talked about this topic a lot, but we need a reminder all the time that the NOW is the only thing that exists.

The now is all we ever really have.

We wake up in the morning and some people like to pray, some do meditation, and some of us make coffee or tea.

It is important to take time first thing in the day with a habit that makes us feel present. Like maybe a walk or a yoga class. It helps us to remember that this is the time to do things. This is the now, and the power is in the present moment, the right now.

Whatever you want in your life, it is important to start with today. Start with making a list of things that you want to create, do, be, or have.

Also if you want to work out an issue – this is the time today. If you want to make peace with someone, or work on something that is bothering you, or do something for yourself that you know you have been thinking about, don’t wait for tomorrow, put one action towards it today.

Now is the time to make peace with others, now is the time to start to create the business that you want, now is the time to send your resume to find a job that you want, now is the time to forgive yourself or others, now is the time to call someone you love, now is the time to take time to think about what you do want in your life, and also what you might need to let go of.

If you don’t start to do something now to work towards what you want, it will never come. You start with your mind, you then have the vision, and then the action.

Do it now, it is always best to do it now. And if you feel overwhelmed taking time to be present in the moment will help you come back to the here and now and out of your mind.

You can have anything you want, you just have to get clear on what it is. For example, if you want a nice vacation you take it step by step. First, you think of the idea, then you might do some research, next you realize you want a nice balcony room overlooking the ocean, and you find a hotel and book it.

Take the steps, and the answers will come.

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Finding peace with the immediate people around us is something that can unblock our entire life.

This is the time to get through all the blocks and frustrations with people you know closely that you have built up emotions about.

People that may have hurt you in the past, people who irritate you so much you don’t want to be around them. This is where you need to look closely and ask yourself why? Why are you clashing? Why has this happened to you? What needs to heal within yourself?

Each person has their own journey and their own thinking, it is not worth it to have this anger and frustration towards them.

It affects us, and this is the time when we need to do it, we need to make peace with the people around us. We need to figure out what bothers us, who bothers us, and what we can do with the aggravation, with the judging, with all of these things that do not bring us peace.

This is the time to find peace with all people who are around you, and realize there are bigger challenges to face, and being at peace with those in your circle will be the right step moving forward.

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When arguments come up and we start to have a conflict between two people – disagreements, anger, losing patience, fighting, and clashing – it hurts. When there is a relationship between two people that know each other well, such as family, brother and sister, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.

First, know that the fights always come from the ego. It will never finish, never be done, never be okay. Until you make peace with your side for you, not the other.

What do we do when an argument happens? First, think about it and ask yourself why has it come to your experience? Why have you gotten to this point? The anger that comes, why have you attracted it in, is there something that you can do differently?

Am I wrong in the situation at all, and can you correct yourself for the next time that this will happen?

As for the other person involved, whatever has been said or done to you, remember that it is about them. What they are projecting is their own story, their own lesson, not yours.

Of course, it is best never to get to this point, but if it has happened, and you have a conflict or argument in your life, it is best to take a step back, to think, to process, to look at the situation.

We can never change another person, but we can change our thoughts. Take it out of yourself, let go of this anger, let go of the fight, and let go of what you can on your side.

The right step is to understand and respect each other, if you are in the place of argument just remember it comes from the ego, and ask where was your conscious to attract this in?

Figure out why it has happened and what you can do to make sure next time you don’t get to this place.

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What do I mean by this?

Fear comes to us all of the time. All different kinds of fear. Little fears, big fears, hurt, confusion.

With fear comes jealousy, low self-esteem, sickness, depression, and feeling stuck, all of these kinds of things come with fear.

In my opinion, fear comes to us only to wake us up, to help us choose, to help us decide. It does not matter the situation, it comes to us to wake us up, and move us through.

The only thing that can lessen the fear or make the fear disappear is love. Love is a state of mind that makes you feel good. You feel powerful. You feel you are in the right place. You are not moving around in your head – you know what you are doing. You like where you are.

How do you return to love?

You stop blaming other people, you care about the other from a place of love and feel the love for that person. You love yourself, you accept yourself. You realize that this is exactly what you need at this time, even if it is not comfortable.

Love is to see the good in the other person. To see how the cup is full. To put seeds out there for good fruit to come.

Even if we decided on something and it does not fit what we want, that is how we change with love and not fear. See how the future can be good. Accept everything.
Keep returning to love. Keep the mindset in a state of love. Care about each other, look with love.

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I want to talk about victim consciousness, and where this feeling of being a victim comes from.

In life, we want to feel good, we want to feel happy, we want clarity, and we want to feel loved. We don’t want to feel aggravated, angry, scared, or like we cannot do something, we want to feel good.

Where does this Victim Consciousness come from? When we feel scared, or in fear, or worry, or like a victim?

Feeling this way comes from when we blame others. We blame the external, our jobs are too much, because of this person you got stuck, or you blame your parents, your partners, your neighbors, etc.

A reminder that nobody does anything to us, we attract these experiences in life to learn. If you have a situation that you do not like or you feel sad or angry in the moment, know that there is something you need to learn here.

Again nobody does anything to you, it is in your mind, and it is for you to learn from. For example, if you are unhappy in your job or your career and maybe someone gets a raise and you feel let down, know that you are meant to learn from this, or maybe re-route your mind, your path.

As hard as it is to face things, you must ask ‘Why?’

Why is this happening to me? What feelings are coming up in your mind and body that brought this, maybe jealously, maybe negative thoughts? It can be that you are bringing this into your reality, or it can be pushing you to find something else that will make you happy.

Victim consciousness comes to us when we blame others and when we don’t fully understand ourselves in a situation.

Be brave enough to realize it is all in your own hands.

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When we wake up in the morning the thoughts we think are the ones we carry with us into the rest of the day.

That time when you wake up is a place where you can start to think differently and attract the changes you want into your reality.

Usually, we always want change in our lives in some way. Sometimes we want it so much, but it is not coming. Even when we imagine it, meditate on it, read positive things, etc. It might be wanting a relationship, or a new relationship, a new job, to move to a new city, a new home, get a new car, have money come in, have a different lifestyle, etc.

The thoughts you think in the morning play into this. You need to honestly look at them – when you wake up in the morning what are the thoughts that start to come up in your mind?

You will quickly see you are thinking about the things that are not feeling good, that are incomplete, that you lack. So you stay with that energy, with those thoughts. What you do not have, or wish you had but do not.

This is our responsibility to change, and we can. The morning is an essential time to take notice and start to be more grateful, appreciative, and in the right mindset.

Write down your thoughts in the morning, this is how you change your mind, how you change the way you are thinking. Write down what you want, and what you are thinking that is good, and more of those kinds of thoughts will grow.

You will start to get into that habit, of using the morning time to only think the way you want your life.

We create our own lives. This is the place where it starts the most. It is up to us, to manage our thinking, our environment, and our reality.

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I just thought that it allows good to remain on this topic again and again, but truly the best thing you can do is live in the moment.

Our mind goes into the future and past so quickly. We get tuned in to our future, how we will make money or if we will have enough money, how or where we will live, what we are going to do, what about our health, worry and anxiety follow – are we doing this right?

Or we are thinking about the past.

We analyze our background, what our parents did to us, what our teachers told us, our past failures, or things that could have gone differently. When this happens we get worried, anxious, sad, and upset. 

This causes a blockage as when this happens it takes us again out of the now and into fear-based thoughts.

To live in the moment means to live in the now. 

This is where God – the “Creator” the light, the truth, your intuition, and answers, all come to you.

If you teach yourself to come back to the now. Your life becomes easier, you don’t have as much worry, come back to this moment.

Exercises can help you train your mind to come back to the present. It is always between you and your mind. You bring your mind to the present when you hear music, or the car outside, or the rain. 

When you see trees moving in the wind, flowers blooming, people laughing or chatting. You come back to the now and remind yourself that you are in the now and here, it is okay.

Talk to yourself and bring yourself into the now when you start to think about the future or the past. 

Remind yourself to come back to the present when you feel anxious or worry about what is next. Live now and enjoy the moment. Bring yourself back to what you are doing now. For example I am reading now, I will enjoy the book, I am eating now, I will enjoy the food, I am with this person now, I will enjoy the company, I am working now, I will enjoy the work.

When you live in the moment, be content with the present, things you do want are able to come in, as the blockages are released.

I talk a lot about this in my book, Our Journey. 

Be where you are, it’s enough as is.

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